i feel like there’s this huge misconception in lgbt circles about twospirit people. let me make something clear: being twospirit is not being nonbinary, genderfluid, etc. it’s a catch-all term for lgbt ndns that originated in 1990 as a pan-indian term for us, due to colonialism stealing the way that many of our nations described lgbt people (or didn’t, because some nations didn’t have a concept or word for lgbt people).
depending on the nation, twospirit people have different roles and meanings. most nations tended to use these identities to describe trans fem people/gay men (though some nations of course did and still do have separate vocabulary for trans masc people/lesbians and third gender people). one thing that historical and contemporary twospirit identities have in common is (a) importance in ceremony, and (b) being connected to our cultures in a way that they cannot exist outside of a cultural context, because “at the core of contemporary two-spirit identities is ethnicity, an awareness of being native american as opposed to being white or being a member of any other ethnic group” (jacob, s). contemporary twospirit identity was created to distinguish us and our unique struggles from the mainstream (white) lgbt community who never have, and likely never will, care about our struggles. in fact, many twospirit people dont consider themselves lgbt due to our alienation.
so basically: if you’re not indigenous and you choose to use twospirit as a way to prove a point in an argument or to give yourself wokeness points, stop. you don’t know what you’re talking about, and it will never be the place of a colonizer to define our identities for us. our identity is not “queer”, it’s cultural.
Imagine hating trans men so much that you read the history of someone who presented as a man for so long that most people only discovered he was ~biologically female~ after his fucking autopsy and be like “well clearly he was just gender fluid” I’m fucking
he specifically asked to be buried in the clothes he died in!!!!! we only know he was trans bc someone disrespected his direct wishes after his death!!!!!!
Not gonna lie I think “fictionkin” gave you all turbo brain damage
Listen I’m speaking as someone who still gleefully kins and has a kinlist and everything but I think you all collectively fucked over your own heads the moment you started using the idea of “no doubles” to psychologically harm yourself and bully others
Like I’m of the opinion that like. The moment your crossing into the territory of like “x character is me in the flesh, do fakes doubles or factkins, dont misname me or refer to us in the third person” like that’s just doing irreparable psychological damage to yourself. You CANNOT claim any of that shit is coping if youre being sent into rage fueled panic attacks when you see people kin the same characters as you!!! You’re not coping and you need to step back because that shit is in NO way healthy dude!!!! Like the idea that people relate to characters thru trauma and instead finding kinship and relation to people who WOULD PROBABLY BE ABLE TO RELATE TO YOU you decide to create fake lists and bully them and invalidate their experiences because you wanna be the alpha kin like… it’s the result of turbo brain damage
And it’s like. It’s because you all have no social interaction outside of your exclusive like 30 person mutuals tumblr circle and you have no social skills and that are like, these psychological self-serving circlejerks of internal validation so you dont know how to properly interact with other people and have no conflict resolution skills bc ppl in your rl are all normies who wont understand when you try and fail to convince them you’re the real and only kokichi ouma or whatever and you feel so powerless that you decide to take it out on ppl thru the internet for false clout cuz it makes you seem like a tough guy. thats what I believe
I think “kin as coping” failed as a movement the moment you all selfishly decided that your own personal gratification in the form of projected identity was more deserving of respect than another human being.
Today I called a girl homophobic as a joke and she almost started crying
She said “my neighbors are a lesbian couple! I’m the least homophobic person you’ll ever meet”
I said “Kelsea I’m really sorry I hurt your feelings but I need you to know that homophobic people can have lesbian neighbors” and she just got even more distraught and said “I’ve been inside their house and I wasn’t even afraid or anything”
